family+, personal, coming out, polyamory / relationship anarchy
Last Sunday I was visiting my family and got into quite a deep conversation with my mother for the first time in years. We were talking about all kinds of emotional topics, and when we got to friendships and relationships and stuff, I seized the opportunity and kind of.. infodumped all of my thoughts and insights that I've gained over the past ~2y on romantic/platonic/sexual relationships, feelings of love and jealousy, good communication, dealing with issues that inevitably arise at times, and so on.. 😅I told her about me and my partner's journey from an exclusive relationship towards an open one, polyamory and eventually relationship anarchy; how we faced problems and dealt with them together; how every step only deepened our bond and mutual trust; how no feelings for other people take anything away from my love for my partner, who I built a life with.
She took it quite well, asked questions without questioning me / my decisions, and gave me the impression that she does get it. It felt so good doing this; I've been meaning to for quite some time, but didn't know how. I'm happy that I'm no longer keeping such a meaningful part of what makes me me from her, and I'm so glad that I was able to do it this way and not out of pressure when it would have gotten impossible to keep (without actively hiding a relationship, which is a line I wouldn't cross) in the future.
And I'm feeling a lot more close to her and my family now, after being distant for so long. I've made the decision to be true to myself and go my own way that was not laid out for me (and I'm thriving!), and they've made their decision to come along. It will not have been the last deep conversation between me and my parents, and I'm optimistic about our relationship. :)
